Helpful Tools
The resources listed below come from books, websites, and podcasts I’ve personally reviewed, either in part or in full. While I may not align with every perspective presented, I believe each offers insights that could be valuable for your process. If you have any questions or concerns about any of the recommendations, feel free to bring them up during our next session.
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When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma – Laura Anderson
Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free – Linda Kay Klein
You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity – Jamie Lee Finch
Shame-Sex Attraction: Survivors' Stories of Conversion Therapy – Lucas Wilson
Sex, God, and the Conservative Church – Tina Schermer Sellers
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Lehmiller, Justin J. (2018). Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. New York, NY: Balance.
Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy: An Integrative Model for Exploring Desire and Intimacy, by Gina Ogden, 2013.
Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido, by Andrew Goldstein and Marianne Brandon, 2009
Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage, by Laurie J Watson, 2012
Reclaiming Your Sexual Self: How you Can Bring Desire Back Into Your Life, by Kathryn Hall, 2004
The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasures of Love, by Stella Resnick, 2012
Intimacy and Desire: Awaken the Passion in your Relationship, by David Schnarch, Ph.D. 2011
The Power of WOW: A Guide to Unleashing the Confident, Sexy You, by Lori Bryant-Woolridge, 2011Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence, by Amy Jo Goddard, 2015
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Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire, by Lori Brotto, Greystone Books, 2018.
Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski, Simon and Schuster, 2015.
Erotic Integrity: How o be True to Yourself Sexually, by Claudia Six, She Writes Press, 2016
Guide to Getting It On! A Book About the Wonders of Sex, by Paul Joannides, 2013
Girl Sex 101, by Allison Moon and KD Diamond, 2015
Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out, by Jessica Graham, North Atlantic Books, 2017.
Longing to Tell: Black Women Talk About Sexuality and Intimacy, by Tricia Rose, Picador, 2003.
Whole-Body Sex: Somatic Sex Therapy and the Lost Language of the Erotic Body, by Melissa Walker, 2021, Routledge.
The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans, 2002
Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, by Peggy Kleinplatz and A. Dana Menard, Routledge, 2020.
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good, by Adrienne Maree Brown, AK Press, 2019.
The Pleasure is All Yours: Reclaim Your Body’s Bliss and Reignite Your Passion For Life, By Rachel Allyn, Shambhala, 2021.
Sex Smart: Transform your sex life: How your Childhood Shaped your Sexual Life and What to Do About It, by Aline Zoldbrod, 2009
Succulent Sex-Craft: Your Hands-On-Guide to Erotic Play and Practice for Men, Women, Singles, and Partners, by Sheri Winston and Carl Frankel Mango Garden Press, 2014.
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It, by Marty Klein, Harper Collins, 2012.
Websites:
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Sex and Cancer: Intimacy, Love, and Romance after Diagnosis / Dr. Saketh Guntupalli and Maryann Karinch
Woman Cancer Sex, Second Edition / Anne Katz
Man Cancer Sex / by Anne Katz
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Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, by Angela Chen, Beacon Press, 2020.
Black on Both Sides: A Racial History of Trans Identity, by C. Riley Snorton, 2017.
Dear John, I Love Jane: Women Write About Leaving Men for Women, by C. Walsh and L. Andre, 2010.
Handbook of LGBT-Affirmative Couple and Family Therapy, by Jerry J. Binger and Joseph L. Wetchler, 2012.
Queer Sex: A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure, and Relationships, by Juno Roche, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2018.
The Testosterone Files: My Hormonal and Social Transformation from Female to Male, by Max Wolf Valerio, 2006.
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves, by Laura Erickson-Schroth, 2014.
Transgender Explained: For Those Who Are Not, by Joanne Herman, 2009.
Trans People in Love, by T. O’Keefe and K. Fox, 2008.
Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiment, by Lucie Fielding, 2021.
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Come Together: The Science of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections / Emily Nagoski
Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships / Lauren Mersy and Jennifer Vencill
The Love Prescription / Dr. John and Dr. Juile Gottman
The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment / Tom Bruett
Card Decks:
Pillow Talk : Cards for intimate conversations
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Attached. – Amir Levine / Rachel Heller
Burnout, Emily Nagoski
Set Boundaries Find Peace / Nedra Tawwab
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End Emotional Eating: Using DBT Skills to Cope with Difficult Emotions – Jennifer L Taitz
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The Body Keeps Score: Brain/Mind/Body in Healing of Trauma – Bessel van der Kolk
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma – Peter Levine
Trauma and Recovery – Judith Herman
The Brain That Changes Itself – Norman Doidge
My Grandmother’s Hands – Resmaa Menakem
What My Bones Know - Stephanie Foo
Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life, by Holly Richmond, Ph.D., New Harbinger Publications, 2021.
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, 3rd Edition, by Wendy Maltz, 2012.
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Where Should We Begin / Esther Perel
Sex and Psychology Podcast / Justin Lehmiller
Sensual Self / Ev’Yan Whitney
Ask A Sex Therapist / Heather Shannon
Hoodrat to Headwrap: A Decolonized Podcast / Erika Hart
Straight White American Jesus / Bradly Onishi and Daniel Miller
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